I struggle with this question and concept because there are some cultural beliefs about women that are hard to change. For example, I have a real issue with the way men feel entitled to stare down women on the street. When I lived in Boston, their was a certain group of young men in a certain part of town that did this. It was totally inapprorpiate. And if they were really hyped up, they would cat call. There did not appear to be a sense of the inappropriateness of this. I have a hard time believing that these men will change anytime soon because they feel entitled to act this way.

I think it works, but that depends on the relative honesty of the kid and the caregiver. If I don’t hear about their dating history, I can’t determine if my interventions work. While everything might appear hunky-dory, it could all be a lie.

If it doesn’t work, I still have a few options left, but getting a judge to allow a supplemental petition (ie violation of their probation) based on dating and their dating history is a pretty tough sell.

What do you tell them? Does it work?

This is such a useful piece of your work.